Wonderful Friends!

I'm sat here, crying my heart out for my friend who has been given bad news regarding her rights to fertility treatments, and d'you know, she's the one talking me through my rights for a ELCS, calming me down about the birth of my baby, how amazing is this woman? She is the most caring, unselfish loving person in the world.

I rang my mum to tell her my friends news (she likes to keep up to date with us ladies) and I cried. I said 'we all want to win the lottery for selfish reasons, but I swear, I promise, just let me win £10,000 and I will give it all to her for IVF, I won't keep a penny' I just wish there was something I could do for her, I feel so useless, and all she has been is supportive, always. I want to pay her back for all the love and support she's shown through my treatments, and my pregnancy. She deserves this, for all the love she shows, I've never known anyone with so much love!


Following on from yesterdays confusing post re Psycho Midwife.

I have talked to my friend who is a midwife, and told her what happened. She asked my MWs name, and straight away screamed down the phone at me to change my MW immediately. It turns out they trained together and she is an absolute nutter. She had very low grades (even failed a year and had to re-take exams). I won't go into details regarding her too much, but I am going to change MWs ASAP. I have an appointment with her next Tuesday 25th, and I have asked my mum to be there. My mum was in the house when I had my appointment last week (this MW is in a team of MWs that deal with vulnerable ladies, ie; mental heath problems and teen pregnancies, can you believe that) and my mum took an instant dislike to her after I told her how the appointment went. I was angry with my mum at first, but as I said yesterday, hindsight is a bitch and it took this weekend for me to realise what an absolute knob she is! So, mum will be at the next appointment, and I want my mum to tell me what I need to do, I trust my mums opinion 100%.
It's a shame I can't have my friend as my MW, but a conflict of interests stops her being on my case. Although I am discussing the possibility of her being with me throughout my labour and birth anyway, and taking her lead regarding my care.
Although as I said yesterday, I still have to see a consultant yet, so I'm hoping they listen to my fears and take into consideration my birth with Charlie, as I have checked and it says on my notes 'ELCS due to baby's size'

I am worried about how my care will be if I request a change in MWs, but have been told that many many women change their MWs, as it is the most personal time of their lives, and if they just don't click with a MW, they won't want them their during birth. It's quite common to change MWs. Its still a worry though.

I'm going to read through the guidelines my wonderful friend has just sent me, regarding a ELCS and just see how my appointment with her goes next week. Hopefully, my mother will step in if I'm not assertive enough!

Oh, and I just love being woken up to 'Darling............your bumps MASSIVE this morning!'