So I had my 20 week scan yesterday, all is great. Although she is a big girl! All her measurements and checks came back within 'normal' limits. But she has got a big belly, I blame her Daddy for this, anyone who knows Bongo or has seen pictures of him will understand what I mean! I was worried at first about maybe a distended abdomen, but she reassured me it was all fine and I checked my scan notes afterwards and its all normal. Luckily I have an appointment with the Consultant next week, so I really will be pushing for my ELCS!!
We had a moment when we thought our little princess may be a little prince. During the scan, she kept referring to baby as 'he'. After she had done all her checks, she asked if we would like to know the gender, we said yes, but didn't tell her we already knew, we wanted confirmation. Baby kept being a little awkward and she had her feet in the wrong position, so the sonographer said 'at the start of the scan, I thought it was a boy', but she wriggled baby, and got the shot to confirm, it is definitely a girl!! Thank God!!
I have had a bit of a negative week this week. I feel I have lost some friends since becoming pregnant. I know this was to be expected, but it still hurts.
I have tried to be respectful and not harp on about my pregnancy and the baby, but I feel I have still lost friends anyway.
Sometimes it is very hard not to keep talking about it, I finally have what I thought I would never have, after 12 years of struggling.
But now I have lost these friends anyway, regardless of how respectful I have tried to be, and I now feel that why shouldn't I shout it from he rooftops after struggling for so long?? Why should I hide my pregnancy and baby like some dirty little secret?
I wouldn't be on FB everyday 'prenancy this, baby that, ooooh pregnancy is so hard' because I have far too much respect for the few that have stuck by me and supported me and been so understanding. I swear, I have not become one of 'those' infertiles, I just don't see why I should hide it anymore, I'm hurt that I have lost friends I thought would always be there.
I've also had a couple of really weird messages from people about my pregnancy this week, one friend I told I am pregnant to, who knows about our struggles, how long we have been trying and having IVF said 'Congrats, it took you fucking long enough'.............No Words, I just couldn't reply!
Then today, I had this conversation on FB. Am I over reacting? Or was that really really rude?? Thanks for reminding me I am terrified of having a natural birth and hoping my daughter doesn't 'rip me to pieces'
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Not over reacting. I genuinely believe some people are just born without the ability to understand what are acceptable comments to make to people.
ReplyDeleteUpon discussing with a colleague my up coming surgery this week, a member of staff, who I do not know, nor have I spoken to before, decided to chime in with "It will hurt. Don't expect to do anything for at least a month" then swanned off in her floaty hippy skirt... Who does that?! Another one born with any sort of social skills!
I'm still very much here...I go quiet when I'm moody and Steph the grouch, but I'm still here. Like a bad smell refusing to leave...