Consultant appointment today to discuss my birthing options.
I went in all ready for the fight of my life, to push for the ELCS, or my compromise of a VBAC, but, if I need any intervention ie; forceps/ventouse, I will refuse this and want to go straight for a EMCS.
Well, it went better than expected, she asked details surrounding Charlie's birth (again) and she had my hospital notes, not just my maternity notes and one of the reasons was due to Maternal Height, so this was going in my favour already! I think she took one look at me, at bump and at Bongo and had already decided to hear us out. She said I can go for a VBAC and is recommending I do, I asked to be booked straight in for an ELCS, she said she can do, and will make an appointment for me to go and discuss my birthing options with a Consultant Midwife, BUT, she has the best plan of action and I'm entirely happy with it!
What we are going to do is, from 1st October (approx 29 weeks) I will be given growth scans every four weeks to check how baby is doing and a decision will be made according to how her scans go. She doesn't want to make any rushed decisions, we have plenty of time to see how things go and I feel I'm not being pushed into something (either way) without being properly monitored.
It's also very comforting to know that she didn't outright refuse me an ELCS and her actual words were 'we can do' when I asked for one. So I know I won't have a major fight in a few weeks when Cora-Jane is the size of an elephant.
Feeling a bit better about these things now.
But other problems, emotional ones are still ongoing. Friendships are fraught, close friends are being upset and hurt and there's bugger all I can do. I have accepted things won't be the same, I realise that now and have come to terms with that. But I hate to think that these issues are happening with other friends as well. I'm confused, I don't understand how it's come to this. But I suppose all good things come to an end.
So to the ladies who have been there for me for the past year or so, supported all my ups and downs, my treatments and failures, then my joy, from the bottom of my heart, I can't thank you enough, you will always be a massive part of my life whether we are in touch or not and I will always think of you.
Cora Jane is rapidly growing bigger than planned?
ReplyDeleteDo they have a more accurate EDD for you? I felt like closer to Christmas was off since you're 4 days behind me. Mine, I think my OB got mixed up and is saying it's Dec 9th, when he's been saying the 8th.
She's just a big baby Jax! She takes after her daddy! So no change in my EDD, it's still Friday 13th December!
DeleteI have my Glucose Tolerance Test next month, as we know ladies with Gestational Diabetes can have bigger babies, but I'm not sure I have, blood glucose levels have been fine for a while now.
You're the mom, it only makes sense that you have a say! Sheesh, we're always taught to listen to the patient so I'm glad someone did!
ReplyDeleteGlad we could all support each other. Sometimes things come to an end and sometimes everyone just needs a break. :)
I was pleasantly surprised at being listened to and taken seriously!
DeleteI'm hoping this is just a break, and/or a breakdown in communication, whatever this 'thing' is thats going on?? I'm so confused and upset by it.